I am sure many of us have come across this phrase of a person being an “open book”. We generally understand that this person concerned is usually honest about one’s feelings and emotions. This person shares her/his/its story with almost everyone.
Well, I have often contemplated this idea that probably I would qualify as an “open book”. I tend to give away my thoughts and feelings very easily. I do not like to keep brooding over some thought for a long time, trying to repress them deep within me. But of course, I do not mean to say that I go about expressing my anger (whenever this emotion hits me) to everyone and anyone. No, I am not that mean. Or, at least I would like to think so!
And I am not for going about spilling secrets people trust you to keep. I am not talking about being this open!
But the problem lies somewhere else today. I cannot really come to a conclusion whether or not one should be “an open book”. How much giving away your thoughts and emotions is too much? If I am friendly with people and very easily trust them, I do sometimes fall down. My trust does sometimes feel betrayed. But more than anything, this friendliness and trust and honesty come across as my weakness. How much friendly then one should be not to be perceived as weak?
Being friendly, as far as I know, is a virtue one has. There are actually no opposites of friends. There are no enemies. Really. They exist only in Older Soppy Bollywood and Classic Western Cowboy movies!
Do we really have time enough to make enemies to whom we are dedicated much to religiously hate them? And if we have so much time, why don’t we instead make some friends? Wouldn’t that make the world a better place to live in?
So with regard to our moral police judging us for being too honest, too trustworthy and friendly, I wonder- how much is too much?
I am probably rambling today. Crisis when the week starts, you know!
But do join me in my crisis. What do you think? Have you ever been labelled as “an open book”? Are you honest with your feelings? What do you think of this?
Let us “open books”, tell them honestly that they are wrong. We are not weak in expressing our emotions. We are friendly which does not make us powerless. In fact, our honesty makes us strong individuals capable of spreading love, care and happiness.
p.s: more on acknowledging our emotions here.
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